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Talking to your kids about your divorce in a healthy way

On Behalf of | Mar 19, 2023 | Divorce

The end of your marriage will impact every member of your Colorado family, and your kids may have a difficult time with this process. You know that your kids could struggle with all of the change and transition, which is why you want to do everything possible to ensure they have what they need for mental and emotional health during this time. This is an important goal, starting with the very first conversation you have with them about your divorce.

The way that you talk to your kids about your divorce matters. This conversation can set the entire tone for your children over the following weeks and months. Before you have this discussion, you may benefit from preparing well beforehand and considering how you can help your kids face the changes they will experience in their lives.

A difficult conversation

You may feel tempted to delay this conversation as it will not be an easy one to have. You do not want to tell your children that their lives are about to change, but you also know that they need to know what is going on. This is an important and formative discussion, and you will benefit from thinking carefully about what you want to say. The following are helpful tips as you consider how to best approach this conversation:

  • Consider the location where you will have this conversation. It is critical that you have this discussion in a place that is private where your kids will feel comfortable.
  • Allow your children to express their emotions during this conversation, and don’t respond in anger.
  • Give them the opportunity to ask questions and voice their concerns about your announcement.
  • Explain what they can expect over the next weeks and months, specifically where they will live and other major changes they can expect.
  • Tell your kids why this is happening and provide as much explanation as possible in a way that is age appropriate.

Telling your kids about your divorce may be one of the most difficult conversations you will ever have. It is in your interests to approach this important step with compassion and concern, ensuring them that their needs will remain your priority at every step of the divorce process. After this conversation, you can focus on seeking custody and visitation terms that will provide them with stability and security for years to come.