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Use care when handling emotions and practical divorce decisions

Many people tend to focus on the monetary impacts of divorce, such as the property division process. What these individuals might not realize is that they have to think about the emotional aspects of their divorce so that they can address those head-on.

There is an intersection where emotions meet the practical decisions that you have to make. In these times, being able to work through your emotions and make choices with a clear head can help you ensure that you aren't making a mistake. You can't take a short-sighted view of what's going on. Instead, look at things regarding how they can impact you now and in the future.

Support payments are part of many divorces

When you have stayed home to raise your children, finding out that your spouse wants a divorce can be frightening because you might not have the means to support yourself financially. If the children will be living with you, thinking about the cost to raise them is probably on your mind. We know that these are valid concerns, and we might have an answer for you.

Some people who are going through a divorce seek out alimony from their future ex. These payments aren't part of every divorce, but they are appropriate in many. Typically, if you were in a marriage that lasted a while, such as 10 years or longer, or if you dedicated yourself to keeping the home or raising the children, you might be able to receive alimony. You should remember that these payments won't last forever, so you should take steps to shore up your ability to support yourself financially while you are receiving them.

Child custody tips for single parents in Colorado

Although you never married your children's other parent, it doesn't mean you are guaranteed to have physical custody of your kids if you and your partner decide to end your relationship. If he or she petitions the court for custody, you may have your work cut out to prove that living with you would be in your children's best interests as opposed to living with your ex.  

You can do several things, as well avoid several things, if you hope to win the court's favor and achieve a satisfactory outcome. Every custody situation is unique. However, most states, including Colorado, have factors that judges take into account when faced with resolving child custody disagreements between single or married parents. The more you learn about the state custody laws ahead of time, the better able to exercise your parental rights you may be.      

4 tips for helping you resolve child custody issues

When you and your co-parent can't come an immediate agreement on specific matters, the situation might turn into a conflict. Finding ways to overcome the conflicts that crop up can provide your children with a positive example of civil conflict resolution and strengthen your parenting relationship with your ex.

Often, you will need to employ more than one method to resolve parenting issues. Finding what works for a specific situation can benefit everyone involved. Below are some suggestions:

  • Focus on the present. Living in the past will only bring up negative feelings. Remember, you have to do what is best for now, so don't base your decisions solely on past events. The exception to this is if past events put your children in harm's way.
  • Always put the children first. You have to be willing to put what is easiest for you aside and think about what your children need.
  • Take a step back. Conflicts sometimes arise from misunderstandings. Listen to what's being said and what solutions are on the table. You might find that there is a viable way to resolve the issue in a way that keeps the children's interests first.
  • Communicate clearly. All interactions, even texts and social media messages, must be respectful. Be concise about what you are saying and think about how your words and tone might be perceived.

Think clearly about property division options and effects

When your marriage is ending, you have to divide the property that you amassed during the union. This is a complex undertaking, especially if you have many high-value assets. Taking things slowly can help you to make sure that you are making the decisions that will be best for you. We know that it can be difficult to sort all this out, but you shouldn't let yourself become overwhelmed.

Often, couples who are divorcing start out splitting up the major assets first since these are often the most contentious. Just remember that higher value doesn't necessarily mean that retaining these assets are in your best interests. In many cases, expensive assets come with high upkeep costs that can strain your budget when you are living off only your own income.

Can more parenting time lower child support payments?

When you decided to divorce, you were fully prepared to pay child support. Not only did you expect it, you welcomed it because you love your children and want to help financially provide for their needs. Like most good parents in Colorado, you have your kids' best interests in mind. Just because you wanted out of a marriage doesn't mean you were planning to negate your parenting obligations.

If you're concerned about how high the payment amounts might be, however, there may be several ways to convince the court to lower it. Every state has its own guidelines for matters concerning child custody, visitation or support. The court makes such decisions on a case-by-case basis. The judge overseeing your case is most concerned with your children's well-being and most judges take two main factors into consideration regarding financial support.

Start 2019 off with a positive parenting attitude

This is the time for parents who are divorced to make decisions about how things will go during the upcoming year. Even if co-parenting has been a bit rocky up to this point, you can make the choice to turn things around so that you can have a positive new year.

Changing your frame of mind isn't going to be easy. You will likely find that it is very easy to fall back into the habit of thinking that things will go wrong. You should remember that there will always be things that can happen or that won't go just as you planned. You might not be able to change these, but you can control your reaction to them.

Major life decisions come during divorce

As you are going through your divorce, you are going to have to figure out how you can rework your life. This might mean finding new hobbies, determining how to make your schedule work with your parenting plan and similar points. The good thing to remember here is that you can adjust and change as the situation warrants. Sometimes, small fixes here and there can make a huge difference.

You might become focused on the actual divorce proceedings. While these are important until the marriage is legally dissolved, they shouldn't be the only focus you have. Now is a time of reinvention, so you can determine what you want your life to be like.

Is your spouse hiding assets to try to beat the system?

Any number of issues may have led to your divorce. Like most Colorado married couples, you and your spouse probably went through good times and bad times throughout the years of your marriage. Regardless of what you consider to have been the final straw in determining that your relationship was no longer sustainable, the main focus now is to achieve a fair and agreeable settlement, so that you and your children (if you have any) are prepared to adapt to a new lifestyle.  

All sorts of legal complications can delay your settlement. Sometimes, it might be clerical obstacles, such as someone forgot to sign a document. Other delays might occur if you need to request a schedule change for court proceedings due to other circumstances in your life. If, on the other hand, the legal problems you are facing have to do with suspicion that your spouse is hiding assets, you'll want to bring the matter to the court's attention immediately.  

Factors the court might consider in child custody cases

Going to court to have a judge determine with whom the children will live can be an anxiety-producing experience. There are many factors that judges consider in custody matters. One is the living arrangements the children will have with each parent, but this doesn't mean that the court will automatically side with the parent who has the bigger house.

It is imperative that you can show the court that your children can have a good life and remain safe in your home. These are the two primary factors that they will look at when trying to determine who will have physical custody of the kids.

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