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Holiday activities might require changes in parenting time plans

The winter holiday season isn't that far off. Even though you might not want to think about right now, you may need to if there are issues about the holiday parenting schedule that need to be hashed out before Thanksgiving break. For many parents, there is a standard schedule that the child follows during these festive times.

It is always best to think about what is best for the kids when there are possible changes that need to happen. For example, if one parent has family coming in from out of town but the children are supposed to be with the other parent, it might be best to change up the parenting time schedule some to allow the kids to see those family members.

Premarital agreements aren't only for the wealthy

Prenuptial agreements set forth protections during your marriage that can help you to start your new life on the right foot if you end up going through a divorce. Some people think that only the wealthy need these agreements. This isn't the case. Many people, including those who have average wealth, can benefit from a prenuptial agreement.

There are several reasons why a couple might decide to enter into a premarital agreement. Here are a few of the most common:

  • One of them has more wealth than the other and wants to protect those assets.
  • A previous marriage might come with support payments that don't need to involve your new spouse.
  • One person has more debt than the other so the prenup can protect the spouse without debt if there is a divorce.
  • The couple has children, either together or from a previous relationship, that need to be provided for even if there is a divorce.
  • There is at least one business that needs to be protected if the marriage ends.
  • When one spouse remains home to raise the child, a prenup can protect that spouse.
  • There is a need for privacy that can be handled via a confidentiality clause in the premarital agreement.

Tips for Colorado parents when talking to kids about divorce

If you're one of many Colorado parents who recently made a decision to file for divorce, you may also be one of many who are worried about how their children will react to the news. It's quite likely that your kids have a friend (or several) with divorced parents. That doesn't necessarily mean it will make it any easier for your children to cope with your family's situation; however, knowing that they have peers who can relate to their emotions can be a great comfort as you help your children move on in life.  

Your children's well-being is no doubt one of your highest priorities as you make plans for a new future. It's true that kids often take their cues from their parents regarding how to act or not act in a particular situation. Therefore, the way you broach the topic will impact their ability to come to terms with your divorce. They will also be far more likely to reach out for support if they witness you doing the same, as needed.  

Help your kids feel at home in your house

One of the biggest adjustments that children have to make during a divorce is learning how to live in two homes. Both parents are going to have to take steps to ensure that the kids feel comfortable in both houses. This can take some work, especially for the parent who moved out of the marital home. Finding a way to help them can be challenging but rewarding.

Children need to have their own space in each home. The exact space they get depends on the size of the home in most cases. If they have to share a room with another child, make sure they have at least drawers to keep their personal belongings in. You can encourage the children to help with decorating their room. In a room with only one child, that child might decide the entire theme. In a shared room, the kids might be able to decorate their own area of the room.

Accusations of domestic violence can make custody difficult

A child custody case that involves accusations of domestic violence is a trying situation for both parents. The parent who is making the claims against the other parent might be fighting to stop the alleged abuser from having time alone with the children. The alleged abuser might not ever have laid a hand on the children and might not have any intention of abusing the children. They might just want to move on with life and raise their children.

When this type of case goes before the court, the best interests of the child become the focal point. The court must determine what to do about the accusations. Much to the dismay of the alleged abuser, an order for supervised visits might be placed until the suitability of unsupervised visits is determined.

Bird nesting could be a viable temporary custody arrangement

The time between the announcement of the divorce and the date it becomes final can vary widely among Colorado couples. Even when the parties are amicable and work out their own settlement, it could take at least 90 days before the court considers the divorce final.

During that time, you and the other parent could give your children time to adjust to the fact that the nature of what makes you a family will need to change. Many people immediately move out and begin having the children go back and forth between the parents' homes, but there may be another, and possibly better, option.

Parenting plans must consider children's needs and schedules

The parenting plan that you set for your children as you work out child custody during your divorce can be as detailed as you feel it needs to be. At a minimum, it needs to cover the schedule that you will use to know which parent has the children when. It should also include information about who is going to make decisions in specific areas for the children.

Sometimes, a parenting plan needs to get more specific. You and your ex might not be able to work together to agree on how to parent the children. In these cases, everything necessary to raise the children should be included in the plan. This includes:

  • Curfews
  • Internet usage
  • Adult overnight visitors
  • Schooling
  • Religious upbringing

Support payments are included in many divorce cases

Thinking about the money when you are divorcing isn't always easy. You have to consider what the court might say about support payments. There are two types that you might encounter. One is child support and the other is spousal support.

Child support payments are determined by a formula that is set by the court. There are other aspects that you might have to work out with your ex that are necessary in addition to the court-ordered regular payments. These have to do with things like uninsured medical bills and school supply costs. Determine how these will be handled now to take away the potential stress later.

You may relate to one or more issues that often lead to divorce

Chances are that several of your Colorado neighbors are married. If you were to talk to them about their relationships in comparison to your own, you'd likely determine that no two marriages are exactly the same. However, you'd also probably find that one or more of the people you speak with can relate to one another because of shared experiences or similar issues in their relationships.

Marriage can be really tough and, sometimes, spouses ultimately decide that they no longer wish to stay together. If that has recently happened in your relationship, there may have been multiple issues that prompted your decision. Emotions can be all over the place during divorce. It's definitely a time when it helps to have a strong support system in place.

Protect your finances and privacy during divorce

Going through a divorce is a stressful time. People cope with this in different ways, but you must make sure that what you're doing is in your best interests. This isn't always easy to do since you are likely emotionally raw. One area that you should be sure you think about is your finances.

Some people are open and honest about the divorce. This is fine, as long as you are controlling what information is shared. If you are going through a high-asset divorce, be very careful with what you share. You don't need strangers trying to come after you just because they think you will have a large settlement.

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