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Misunderstanding might happen with child support payments

Child support payments aren't meant as a punishment for the parent who has to pay them. Instead, they are meant to help cover the expenses for the child. As you can imagine, this is important because rearing children is expensive. There isn't any good reason for one parent to have to shoulder the entire cost.

When you pay child support, you have to give the money to the other parent. They are the one that purchases the items the child needs, so don't assume that you are actually giving them free money. In fact, one thing that might cause a misunderstanding is that child support money can be co-mingled with other household funds. It is easy to misinterpret where the money is going because of this.

Plan carefully for child custody exchanges with your ex

Spending time with your children is probably the highlight of your day. When you are divorced and co-parenting, you might not get that chance daily, so making the most of the time you do have together quickly becomes a priority. It is important to remember that you don't always have to do special things with your children. Instead, it is fine to just have normal family time.

One way that you can help your child adjust to spending time with you is to ensure that the child custody exchange is calm and without any stressful elements. When you and your ex meet for the swap, you shouldn't discuss matters that are likely to start an argument.

Emotions can sabotage divorce settlement negotiations

If the prospect of ending up in a court battle during your divorce stresses you out, you aren't alone. While going to court used to be the norm when it came to ending a marriage, these days, most people prefer working out a fair and equitable divorce settlement without going to court.

If you are among the group that doesn't believe the traditional and adversarial divorce path is for you, then you must come to one incredibly important decision from the beginning -- you won't let your emotions drive your proceedings.

Your children must be the focal point of the parenting plan

Co-parenting after divorce doesn't have to be the most challenging thing that you've ever done. Instead, you can make it a peaceful arrangement that greatly benefits your children.

One way that you can do this is by making sure that your children are kept at the center of the co-parenting relationship. This can help them thrive because they might not be torn between two warring parents. It can also help you because you won't have to worry about balancing the needs of your children with your own wishes.

3 tips for going through a divorce trial

While many divorces are handled through mediation, there are some that end up going through court. During the time that you are in the courtroom, you must ensure that you are handling things in the appropriate manner. The judge is going to watch what you do and listen to what you say. Some of these might be considered when the decisions are being made about the case. With that in mind, there are some specific things for you to remember.

First, when you are dealing with the child custody matters, remember that the children belong to both parents. Referring to them as "my" children may be problematic. Instead, acknowledge the other parent by referring to them as "our" children to show that you agree both parents are important. Additionally, be prepared with a few points you can discuss if you are asked what positive things you have to say about your ex's parenting skills.

Alternative options when co-parenting isn't a good fit

Do you compare yourself to other parents a lot? It's a downfall that gets many people in Colorado and beyond stuck in a rut. Especially if you've recently gone through divorce, it's much healthier to remember that no two family situations are exactly the same. Just because you don't do things like your friend, co-worker or relative who has gone through divorce, doesn't mean you're doing it wrong. 

In fact, there really isn't a right or wrong way to co-parent. It's more about working as a team with your ex to develop a plan that is fair and agreeable and keeps your kids' best interests in mind. When traditional co-parenting isn't working, you might want to consider other options, such as parallel parenting. Speaking with someone well versed in family law issues can be a gateway to learning more about this style of post-divorce parenting.

Co-parenting requires cooperation in front of the children

Kids don't deserve to have a bad life just because their parents divorce. Instead, they should be able to count on their parents to work together for their good. One way that parents do this is through co-parenting. When you make the decision to co-parent, you have to keep your focus on the children.

There are many things that you can do to make the situation easier on everyone. One of the most important is to continue to encourage your children to have a relationship with your ex and that side of the family. The children shouldn't ever think that they have to choose one side or the other.

Allegations of abuse make child custody cases difficult

Domestic violence is a tragedy, especially when children are involved. The situation becomes a challenge because there is a chance that the kids never experienced the abusive behavior. When this occurs, the court has to decide whether the child should still have a relationship with the parent who was allegedly abusive. We know that this is hard on both parents, but the child's safety has to be the priority.

One option that the court might use in these cases is supervised visitation. This enables the children to still spend time with the parent who was accused of abuse, but there is a person standing watch to ensure that the kids aren't being abused. Even though this isn't ideal, it is likely better than not having contact with the parent.

Is your divorce putting your business at risk?

As if divorce is not stressful enough, you are also trying to run a business during this highly emotional and uncertain time. Additionally, the business itself may be on the line. It is not uncommon for entrepreneurs to lose their companies to asset division during a divorce.

If you have a prenuptial agreement or an operating agreement that includes your spouse, your business may have the protection of these legal documents. However, this is not a given. Even a prenuptial agreement may not exempt your business from asset division if your spouse participated in the running or financing of the company during your marriage.

Work with your ex to address behavioral issues in children

Some children don't adjust well to the changes that come with divorce. They might not be able to handle the flood of emotions they experience. For some kids, the overwhelming emotions come out as behavioral troubles. In most cases, they aren't trying to misbehave. Instead, they just don't know what to do and can't control their reactions.

It can be especially difficult to determine how to help children who aren't able to relay their needs to you. In these cases, you may have to do some digging to figure out what they need. This might mean talking to them to see what's on their minds. It may also mean keeping track of what's going on around them when they begin to act out. You can ask your ex to do the same, and you can include a plan of action to address these problems in the custody agreement.

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