Domestic violence is a very serious issue that must be treated as such. When you are the victim of this type of situation, moving past it can be difficult. Many people don’t realize how difficult it is to have to deal with these things. It is especially hard for people to understand how much domestic violence impacts a person when the abuse is emotional instead of physical since you can’t really see the emotional damage.
One thing to remember if you are leaving an emotionally abusive relationship is that you are strong enough to live without the abuser. Oftentimes, abusers make you think that you need them. This isn’t true at all. Even if you do need help as you rebuild your life, that assistance can come from someone who loves you and wants to support you instead of coming from someone who just wants to control you and use you.
Take your time as you rebuild. There might be times when you feel like you need a companion. At the same time, this prospect might be frightening. Instead of trying to rush into things, take your time. You can see how things are going, and don’t feel bad about breaking up with the person if you see that they are going to be abusive. Taking your time also lets you heal from the damage that was done by your ex.
You have to forgive yourself for the wrong your abuser did. You weren’t to blame, but many victims do believe they were at fault for the abuse. As you do this, you will begin to see that your ex was the only one responsible for their actions. Use the thoughts and observations you had from the previous relationship to set your rules for any future relationships. You can live your best life now that you aren’t underneath an abusive partner.