Parenthood involves tremendous amounts of responsibility and obligation; yet, many Colorado parents and others still say it is one of the most rewarding experiences of their lives. Certain situations may challenge you more than others, such as navigating your children’s toddler years or, perhaps even more, their lives as teenagers. If, at some point, you divorce, you may feel like you’re dealing with a thousand different emotions at once.
Like most good parents, your highest priority is your children’s best interests, and helping them come to terms with the situation and adapt to a new lifestyle. It’s critical that you understand how much your own attitude and behavior impacts your kids and influences their ability to cope. You can take comfort in knowing that support is available, especially if a particular situation turns into a legal problem.
Clear communication is key to success
While you’re definitely not obligated to share private details of your divorce with your kids, they will no doubt notice your reactions and emotions as you navigate proceedings. They’ll likely be better able to rebound and move on in life if they believe that you are going to be okay as well. The following tips may be helpful in such circumstances:
- If they see you cry, explain to them that sadness is a natural consequence of divorce.
- Assure them that, even if you cry sometimes, you’re okay and, like them, are doing your best to come to terms with your situation.
- Share some ideas with your kids about how to cope with different emotions. By setting an example of proactive, constructive healing measures, they are more likely to follow suit in their own lives.
- If you’re feeling particularly low, don’t be afraid to let your children see you reach out for support. It lets them know that even an adult needs a shoulder to lean on at times. The main point is to recognize that what you do and say will impact the way your children adapt to your new lifestyle as you all move on together following your divorce. Careful choices and open communication are keys to success.
Stay close as a family
Your situation doesn’t necessarily have to mean an end to your closeness as a family. In fact, you and your children may grow even closer as you encourage and support one another through divorce. If you find a particular issue is impeding your ability to move on in life in a healthy, productive manner, there are support resources available to help you find solutions.