Having a co-parenting relationship isn’t always easy, but you might realize that it is what is best for your children. If you are in this type of arrangement with your ex, you might need to make a plan now for what you are going to do when issues develop. Making the plan when you aren’t under stress can help you to feel more in control when you are going through a difficult situation.
One thing that you might consider doing is coming up with a mutual way that you and your ex can let the other person know that time is needed to think about a situation. All too often, people will become so frustrated with an issue that they will just storm off. This doesn’t get anything solved and could end up fostering animosity that starts you on a slippery slope of a devolving parenting relationship.
Another plan that you can create now is determining how communication about contentious matters will be handled. You might decide that written communication like texts and emails is the way to handle these matters. That ensures that there will be a record of what is said. If you do this, make sure that you think about how messages might be construed since it is often hard to decipher these types of messages.
Having a detailed parenting plan in place might also help. You can turn to the details in the plan to help you to determine the solution that you need for specific issues. This is usually helpful when there are big issues that come up, such as where the child will spend holidays. Ultimately, you have to do what is best for your child, so think carefully when you make any decisions in these cases.
Source: Our Family Wizard, “What You Can Do When Your Co-parenting Isn’t “Worry-Free”,” accessed Feb. 09, 2018