When things get tough in your marriage, you might be tempted to call it quits. Before you make the decision to do that, you should take the time to evaluate what is truly important. There are several things that you will have to consider. However, you must start with the things that irk you the most about your spouse.

You need to take a few moments to think about what kinds of compromises there are that might help you and your spouse to work things out. Does he hate your music and you hate his? Maybe you need to settle on a genre tha is completely different.

Finding a happy medium for chores and child care is probably much more difficult than finding a suitable music option. Still, persistence is the key to working things out. You may need to schedule a time to sit down and talk about the differences to determine how you need to proceed.

Ultimately, the goal of a marriage is to find ways that you can both be happy. This is something that is often hard to do, but when things click, you will likely be able to enjoy your marriage.

If you can’t work things out, divorce might be the way that things need to go. You should learn about the process and figure out how you are going to try to get the important matters resolved so that the divorce can move forward. This includes figuring out everything from child custody matters to property division. If you can’t come to these agreements, the court will make the determinations for you.

Source: Prevention, “I Started Working From Home And Spending All Day With My Retired Husband—Here’s How We Avoid Driving Each Other Crazy,” Debra Utacia Krol, May 08, 2017