Some studies have cited Facebook as a factor in up to 20 percent of divorces. It is becoming standard practice for divorcing spouses to turn to each other’s Facebook pages and other social media profiles for ammunition during the process, whether they’re looking for evidence of infidelity or other unsavory behavior.
It is always wise to proceed carefully on the Internet, where nothing is truly private and even deleted information can come back to haunt you. But when you’re going through a divorce, consider taking a few precautionary steps to protect yourself.
First, try to avoid making disparaging comments about your ex on the web. There may be bad blood between you but a page that can be viewed by almost anyone is not the place to air your grievances. Not only are such remarks unkind, they may come back during child custody determinations and lower your credibility.
Even updates that aren’t directly related to your ex, your relationship or your divorce can have implications. If you post about being at a bar with friends, for example, your former spouse could use it to strengthen an argument that you have a chemical dependency or are unreliable. Avoid posting anything that could be interpreted to show you in a negative light.
These tips are just the beginning. Next week we’ll touch on some more tips for weathering a divorce on social media.
If you are going through a divorce it can be difficult to know where to turn for help. Consider working with an experienced family law attorney who can guide you through the process and support you at every step. He or she can aggressively represent your interests so you and your family can pursue the best possible outcome.
Source: Law and Daily Life, “5 Rules for Social Media Use During Divorce,” Andrew Lu, Feb. 20, 2013