The end of a marriage can be a traumatic and overwhelming time for the entire family, especially for your children. You know the news of your divorce will have a deep impact on various aspects of your life, which is why you want to be sensitive and intentional about how you handle this matter. The way in which you break the news of your divorce is important, and it can affect your kids long-term.
Not only is the timing of your announcement important, but where you have the conversation is important as well. Being sensitive to your kids and their potential reactions can help soften the blow and provide security during this difficult time. How you approach this first step can make a significant difference in how Colorado kids handle other divorce-related aspects as well, such as visitation and more.
Focus on their well-being
When having this conversation, it is critical to be receptive to their needs above your own feelings. This is not the time to prove a point or try to get the kids to take a side. Remember, your kids will still need to have strong and consistent relationships with both of you, which is why you may want to present the announcement of your divorce in cooperation with the other parent. Consider the following when preparing to have this conversation:
- Choose the timing of your conversation carefully.
- Have the conversation in an environment that is private and comfortable.
- Make sure the kids know that the divorce is not their fault nor a result of their actions.
- Speak respectfully to and of the other parent when telling your kids about the divorce.
- Be ready to answer difficult questions; allow your kids to express themselves.
When it is time to have this conversation, be prepared with an explanation of how this will affect the kids’ schedules, where they live and other aspects of their everyday lives. This information will help them understand what to expect in the weeks and months ahead.
Lay a solid foundation
The foundation of a strong post-divorce future for your children starts now. You can provide stability and security for them by setting aside your own temporary feelings and creating a custody and visitation plan that will be sustainable for years to come. Protecting the long-term interests of your children starts with this first conversation you have about your divorce.