Life doesn’t always go as expected. For many couples in Colorado, their happily ever after ends abruptly in divorce. When parents divorce, the situation can be even more difficult. As difficult as the situation is, parents who have joint child custody arrangements know they must work together for the well-being of their children. Here are a few ways to make joint custody easier for all parties involved.
Create a plan
One of the most important things to do is to sit down with the other parent and create a parenting plan. If the divorce was less than amicable, the parenting plan should be detailed. Be sure to specify how holidays and birthdays will be shared. Also create a detailed pickup and drop-off schedule.
Communication is crucial in a joint custody arrangement. However, lack of communication is also one of the most common reasons for marital breakups, and this probably won’t change just because the marriage is over. It can be helpful to work with a therapist or coach to ensure effective communication.
It can be helpful to look at parenting post-divorce like a professional relationship. Treat the other parent like a colleague instead of an ex-spouse. Holding grudges or being spiteful toward the other parent for things that occurred in the past will only escalate tension, and this could impact the mental health of the children.
Without question, parenting after a divorce can be a challenge. But always remember that this is no longer about the relationship with the former spouse, this is about the children. Keep the children as the top priority. The laws surrounding child custody in Colorado can be confusing, so those who have questions about child custody may want to consider contacting a knowledgeable family law attorney who can answer questions and provide guidance.