Although marriages dissolve for any number of reasons, a common area of concern when parents divorce is the safety and well-being of the children. Countless studies have shown that children benefit the most from having access to both parents. Because of this, co-parenting or shared parenting has become one of the most popular child custody arrangements in Colorado. Here’s how to make this type of arrangement a successful one.
In order for a co-parenting arrangement to work, ex-spouses need to leave the past in the past. Never bring issues from the marriage into the co-parenting relationship. When parents are combative, the children’s lives are directly affected and even the smallest decisions can become obtuse. Self-reflection or therapy can help, but do whatever it takes to move on. Individuals who are happier are able to co-parent with intention and focus.
Communication is a crucial part of a co-parenting arrangement. It can be tempting to ignore calls or texts from an ex-spouse, but always be willing to respond cordially and promptly. When the children see that their parents are able to communicate respectfully, they will often follow suit.
Understandably, tensions will sometimes run high in any parenting arrangement. During stressful times, it is helpful to have someone to talk to. Close friends, religious leaders and support groups can be helpful resources for emotional and psychological support during tough times. The laws in Colorado surrounding child custody can be very confusing. Those who have questions regarding child custody and/or custody laws may want to consider discussions with a knowledgeable and seasoned attorney.