Many things can lead to the end of a relationship. One of these is having an abusive spouse. In some cases, there might not be any physical abuse. However, emotional abuse and bullying can be just as tough to endure. In fact, some people have said they would have preferred to be physically rather than mentally abused.

Because it isn’t always evident when a spouse is being a bully, you should learn some of the signs of this behavior so that you can make an accurate determination about your relationship. One of the primary indicators is that your spouse is very controlling. They might use a variety of methods to do this, but think about how they react when you exert any measure of freedom. For example, are you worried that you will “get in trouble” if you go grab a taco on the way home from the library or gas station? If so, your spouse might be controlling.

Another worrisome behavior is your spouse putting you down in front of others. Ideally, any issues that they have with you will be handled in private. If your spouse calls you names or says negative things about you, there is a good chance that you are in an abusive relationship.

Bullies sometimes taunt their victims. It might feel like you are being pushed to your limits. This is done as a way to get you to do what they want and is another form of control.

If you realize that you are being bullied, it might be time to consider divorce. You don’t have to stay in a relationship that involves any form of domestic violence. There are options to help you. Consider filing for divorce and getting a protective order so you can start a life free of abuse.