Parents who are going through a divorce often have to deal with children who are asking questions about what happened and what is going to happen. These aren't always easy to answer, and sometimes, there isn't an age-appropriate answer to give. One thing that might help you to cope with these is to sit down with the kids and your ex to have a discussion about what is going on.
There are a few reasons why this might be a good idea. The most important thing here is that your children get the same answers and both parents know what is said. This can create the stability that your children need to move past this change.
When you and your ex have a meeting together with the children, you are also showing them that you have a united front when it comes to them. This is important after the divorce because it may stop the kids from trying to play one parent against the other.
Another way that this benefits the kids is that it lets them know that they matter. It reinforces the fact that they are important and part of the family. It gives them a chance to ask questions and make their feelings known.
We know that this is a challenging time for you. We can work with you to come up with the terms of the parenting plan so that you have this information when you are ready to let the kids know about the divorce. No matter what, make sure that you don't provide inaccurate information to them since that can give them false hope about what is going to happen.