The day that one parent decides to divorce is the first day in a life of change for the children. Some people try to make sure that the children fare well throughout the process. This means different things for different families so you have to figure out what will work for you.

One thing that you have to realize is that a child-centered divorce could mean that you have to deal with some uncomfortable situations with your now ex. This might not be fun, but if you handle it properly, your children might reap very important benefits.

Once the divorce petition is filed, you and your ex have to determine if you can live in the same home or if someone needs to move out. Ideally, you won’t expect the children to move out of the home right away. Learning that their parents split up and having to move to a new place might be more than what they can comfortably handle.

Whether you and your ex remain in the same home or not, you will need to communicate. This is where you will really have to work. Your children don’t need to see you argue and fight. Instead, try to hash out contentious matters away from the children.

How you and your ex treat each other during this time can greatly impact your children. Acting cold, unforgiving or ornery with each other can teach children that those are ways to deal with people you aren’t getting along with. Remaining civil around the children can teach an important life lesson.

You and your ex need to get temporary orders for child custody and support. This adds some stability to a difficult situation and can set the framework for the permanent orders.

Source: The Huffington Post, “7 Secrets For A Child-Centered Divorce,” Bari Zell Weinberger, Esq., accessed Dec. 14, 2017