Your social life likely changes quite a bit while you were married and might have suffered during the divorce. You have to reclaim your social life once you are single again. Many people might think this has to include romantic encounters, but this isn’t the case.

One of your top priorities when you are rebuilding a social life is trying to find activities you enjoy. Your focus should be on yourself and not just trying to jump into a new relationship. Rebound relationships aren’t usually a good idea. With this in mind, you have to take things slowly when you are reentering the social scene.

As you are finding out what you enjoy, you might realize that things have changed a lot since your marriage ended. This is perfectly fine. Right now is a time when you can embrace change and find out what works for you. There isn’t a significant other who has to be considered now.

Another thing to consider is that you can try new things now. This might help you find activities that you enjoy and other people who like the same things. Your goal is to build lasting friendships with real friends who appreciate you and who you can count on.

Always remember to put your children first if you have some. Try not to put them on the back burner for your social life. Instead, use the time when they are with your ex to enjoy your single life. Find things to do with your children when they are with you. This can be a time of growth and reinvention for your relationship with them, too.

Source: Our Family Wizard, “How to Reclaim Your Social Life After Divorce,” accessed Oct. 25, 2017