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Can you be friends with your ex?

On Behalf of | Aug 14, 2013 | Child Custody & Parenting Time

After a divorce, the last thing you probably want to do is think about is getting friendly with your ex – at least for most people, anyway. Most divorces simply aren’t that amicable. At some point, though, ex-couples find it’s just easier to become somewhat friendlier towards an ex-spouse.

During a recent interview on OWN, Charlie Sheen’s ex-wife, Denise Richards, talked about how they actually enjoy spending time with each other – with their children. She said the two of them take vacations together. The key to their ability to get along? According to Richards, it’s the fact that she doesn’t judge him and that in the end, she’s always there for him.

While you may not be ready to pack your bags and head off on an extended vacation together, it usually is best that you and your ex get along for the best interest of your children. According to the experts, here are a few things to think about when you have joint custody or shared custody with your ex.

First, forget about all those negative things that occurred when the two of you were married. Get on with your lives and let go of the past. It’s easier said than done, but best for the kids.

Second, relax. Now that you don’t have to worry about trying to make your marriage work, you can let go of all that stress.

Third, try talking more. Don’t argue, but really talk. Poor communication is one of the main reasons why a divorce occurs. Talk about your feelings with respect to the children.

Always think about your children first. If those feelings of annoyance or resentment start to surface, remind yourself that the children’s needs come first and think about what you say or how you act with your ex in their presence.

If you’re still contemplating a divorce, consult with an experienced Colorado divorce attorney. Your attorney will ensure your rights are protected and can answer your questions about the divorce process, including those on child support and custody, spousal support and property division.

Source: huffingtonpost.com, “Friends After Divorce” Lois Tarter, Aug. 07, 2013