We’ve talked before some about co-parenting and how to maintain a regular and stable relationship with your child or children after you and your spouse split up. It can be especially difficult for the parent who doesn’t get full custody. For those Colorado parents who aren’t able to see their kids on as regular of a basis, there are a few ways to make the most of the time you do have with your kids.

An important factor that could be in your control is where you live. While you don’t have to live down the street from your family, if you already live in the same town, it could benefit you to stay there. After a divorce, there are a lot of things in your life that you might want to shake up, and understandably so, but when it comes to being there for your kids, actually physically being there is one of the best ways you can show them you’re still available.

Similarly, spending time doing things with the children and going to all of their events can help too. Even if it isn’t your weekend, working with an attorney or your ex-spouse to allow you to come to their shows and games could be a part of the custody arrangement. Doing so, and showing your interest in still being an active role in your kids’ lives could also potentially help in future changes to your custody arrangement, should a modification be desired.

Finally, understanding that your kids are going through something difficult and emotional as well can help you to keep your frustrations and personal feelings about the custody setup to yourself in an effort to make the time spent with them a safe and good place. Colorado residents who are unhappy with their custody arrangement may wish to contact legal counsel and learn about how to possibly go about a modification or parenting time factors.

Source: The Huffington Post, “Divorced, but fathering well,” Marie Hartwell-Walker, Jan. 4, 2013