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How to make a divorce the best it can be

On Behalf of | Feb 28, 2011 | Divorce

Not all marriages last a lifetime. Sometimes, despite many happy years of marriage together, a couple grows apart. When this happens, it may be better for everyone involved to file for divorce.

Many Colorado couples experience divorce. Most people want their divorce to go smoothly and to be over quickly. Sometimes, however, people find themselves caught in a messy dispute and hating their spouse. A recent article from The Huffington Post offers some ideas on why divorces get messy and how to make them as productive as possible.

According to the article, divorces can become ugly when spouses don’t communicate their problems. If one spouse starts thinking about divorce but doesn’t communicate that to their counterpart, it can build up inside that person and start to create an even bigger problem. That person could start seeing him or herself as the victim in the marriage and, at the same time, start seeing their spouse as the source of all of the marriage’s problems. Creating this blame can lead to a breakdown in all communication, which will only make the divorce process – if that’s what is deemed the best solution – even worse.

Keeping open lines of communication all the time can go a long way to help a divorce get resolved quickly. The author of the article suggests that a person tell their spouse as soon as they start noticing problems. By communicating early on, it can give a couple the opportunity to work on their marriage to see if it can be salvaged. If it cannot, then they can approach divorce knowing that it is the best thing for their family. If the couple has children, keeping amicable relations can help show the kids that a divorce, while sad, is the best thing for everyone.

Divorce can be a difficult process for everyone involved, but there are many ways to ensure that it goes as smoothly and quickly as possible.


The Huffington Post: “Why Divorces Get Ugly and How to Have a Good One,” Beth Weissenberger, 16 Feb. 2011