We recently discussed how adopted children go through the exact same legal process as biological children when their parents divorce. These adopted children might suffer more emotionally because they are facing another life upheaval, especially if they were older when they were adopted.
We know that you probably didn't think your marriage would end like this. Since you can't change the status of the divorce, you should work toward making things easier for the children. One way you can do this is by trying to work through the child custody matters as quickly as possible so that the children can have a stable life, even with the new conditions.
Some parents are able to work together to raise the children, even after the divorce is finalized. Some parents opt to co-parent the children so that they can both play an active role in the child's life. This is often a positive thing for the child since they get to forge a good relationship with both parents.
We know that you might have some questions and concerns about the child custody process. This is sometimes a complicated process, but you can work through things one point at a time to ensure that you are doing what you feel is best for your child.
We can help you to explore different options that might help tailor a child custody agreement to your child's needs and the current circumstances. By putting your kids first, you are setting a good precedent that could make the upcoming child-rearing years much easier for you and them. After all, that is the ultimate goal.